Did you get into the Facebook numbers game a couple of weeks back? I know, I know, most of you HATE anything that contains the “Facebook” and “game” word combination. I usually do too, but something about this one intrigued me. I saw that some of the youth from my church were taking part so I checked it out to see what they were doing.
Here’s how it works. You post this as your status for everyone to see:

So you put that out there, then privately someone sends you three numbers, then you go back and update your status, using those three numbers to address the status update to them. Shortly after I posted that the first set of numbers arrived and I responded:

I wrote a bit about it the day I first saw it and I mentioned that I thought it had some potential for good; I had no idea how much potential it really had.
Opportunities
Random numbers followed personally addressed comments seems annoying to some; to others, it provides an opportunity to see what kinds of relationships they’ve cultivated with other people they’re connected to. At best, this little game allows someone to ask for a review of his or her influence on someone else. (At worst – like most things on Facebook, it becomes annoying silliness that clogs your news feed)
To me, the type of potential feedback this might provide sounds something like what Paul calls a “letter of recommendation” in 2 Corinthians 3:
…do we need, like some people, letters of recommendation to you or from you? You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everyone. You show that you are a letter from Christ, the result of our ministry, written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts.
This, as I saw it, was an opportunity to measure in a small way my faithfulness to God’s mission by observing the people I’ve had the opportunity to influence. This was a two-way operation, so I made myself available for feedback and asked for feedback from others.
Results
On the giving end, I was able to encourage, build up, and speak into the lives of 30 or so people. On the receiving end, I got some much-needed encouragement during a tough week.
One friend said:
“You have made me question many of the things I once thought I was convinced about concerning my faith and have steered me in a direction that allows me to see things from a perspective I never really wanted to but that has helped shape me for the better.
Your friendship has challenged me and helped me to see my need to consider views that run contrary to mine. I’m grateful that God has allowed this unlikely friendship to exist.”
It’s good to know where you stand with someone. Especially as men, it is often seems difficult to say these sorts of things face to face. Saying it on Facebook is not a cowardly way out. The opposite – saying something negative in public space – is cowardly because it deters face-to-face meeting. Used positively, this “game” increases the potential for more in-person conversation and makes greater depth of conversation and relationship a likely outcome.
Another friend said:
You have challenged me to seriously think about the things that I believe. You have a very sharp mind, and knowing you has sharpened mine. When I often beat myself about my slow start to education, I think about you, and how I don’t think you’re old at all, and it makes me feel better. :)
Also, I don’t hate Catholics anymore because of you.
Saying something like the above is, you have to admit, not something you usually blurt out in the middle of a conversation. Maybe we should more often but usually we don’t. It can be awkward both to give such a comment and to receive one.
Conclusion
At the end of it all it was a fruitful exercise in encouragement. There’s something about people needing a good word and you making yourself available to give them one that is appealing. Through these interactions I learned what kind of impression I’m leaving as I go about my teaching, preaching and general conversations.
Thirty people or so took me up on the offer and I returned the request to a few of them too. And I don’t count a minute of it as time wasted. Go and give it a try! I’m willing to go another few rounds if you are.
My profile is here . Friend me, message me, and lets get to building each other up.